Thursday, April 2, 2015

All relationships go through hell, real relationships get through it.

"Yes, they do. At least if you try, they will. Have you ever tried asking him what went wrong? Why did he ask you to leave him without a reason?" Ruchi's consultant psychiatrist kept asking her until she got an answer. This was her third visit and yet she found it difficult to utter a single word. Her dad waited outside to hear speak a single word ever since she came to stay with him.

Ashok was the reason for Ruchi to smile always. She chose to marry Ashok when her Dad asked her to, for she believed he was the perfect life partner for her. Smart looks, great physique, allergic to smoking and drinking socially, she could tick off all the points in the check list. But what she did not realise was she didn't match up to his desire to have a perfect wife. She wasn't ready to quit her job. 

Ashok wished to have a house wife happily settled at home, not because he was not comfortable with Ruchi working and managing the household, he was more insecure because of his failed relationship.
A year and half passed and they couldn't find a suitable solution for the problem. Ruchi couldn't understand his insecurities while Ashok showed his displeasure every now and then. "I thought you will understand me but, no. Your work is more important than our marriage. So, I am asking you to make a choice.”

"You chose to quit but did you ever try to explain your reasons? May be that would've helped him understand you better. You worked because you made a promise to your ailing Mom that you will always work not for pleasure but for dignity. I am sure, he would have understood you. May be communicating your reasons would have saved both of you from going through hell."

"I am sure, it would have, had you told me once! I would have respected your decision of working more than fighting my insecurities that you may drift apart from me like Payal did." Ashok stood at the door with his father-in-law, looking at Ruchi's blank face. “Let’s begin afresh. We’re done living in this hell where relationships go for a toss at the drop of a hat. Let’s work together on our marriage, our decisions, your job and our happiness. I don’t think I can survive on burnt food anymore!”


This post is part of A to Z Challenge 2015.